How can I convince my parents that the schools I want to apply to are right for me (and that I don’t want to pick theirs)?

Having regular conversations about college with your parents is very important throughout your junior and senior years. Sometimes these discussions may turn into debates or even arguments, and can become a test of willpower.  Nevertheless, when the emotions have died down, you should step back and remember that your parents know you very well, in some ways, better than yourself, and it's worth taking their thoughts into consideration, even if you disagree.

The best way for you to convince‚ your parents and, more importantly, yourself, if a college is right for you, is to do your homework and research the place you will spend the next four years.  Find out about the academic and social life there and consider the practical: distance from home, safety, financial aid and work opportunities on and off campus.

Share your findings with your parents. If there are disagreements, ask your parents why they believe other colleges are a better match for you. When you compare apples to apples, hopefully, you and your parents will compromise on a college list that meets both of your needs. Remember, choosing which college to apply to is a fluid and evolving process.  You should never be embarrassed to change your mind. Your parents are on your side and ultimately want you to be happy and that you are making a smart decision.  

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